WEBVTT 00:00:00.480 --> 00:00:05.560 It's really sad you know, wedding ceremonies which should be a highlight of the day, if 00:00:05.660 --> 00:00:10.780 not the highlight of a wedding day, have just become something that we almost joke about, 00:00:10.840 --> 00:00:14.340 we can't wait till they're finished, we can't wait till it's over so we can start having 00:00:14.380 --> 00:00:14.960 a good time. 00:00:15.160 --> 00:00:19.140 After the wedding ceremony it should be that you can't wait to talk about how good it was, 00:00:19.660 --> 00:00:24.440 how relevant it was, how real it was, how authentic and how much fun it was. 00:00:25.300 --> 00:00:25.920 Hi I'm Ethan. 00:00:26.440 --> 00:00:30.160 I'm Grace and we're currently on our honeymoon in the Italian Dolomites. 00:00:31.320 --> 00:00:34.920 We actually decided to go with Jake when we saw him on another couple's wedding 00:00:35.060 --> 00:00:39.940 video, coincidentally. We didn't really do much research. The way he just held 00:00:40.020 --> 00:00:43.780 himself and the way he spoke, when we heard him we were like, "That's the guy 00:00:43.900 --> 00:00:47.980 for us." Yeah, so we just booked him in right away, no hesitation, and we're so 00:00:48.100 --> 00:00:52.300 glad we did because he was just an awesome celebrant. Everyone came up to 00:00:52.380 --> 00:00:55.980 us afterwards saying what a great job he did and how much fun they had in the 00:00:55.900 --> 00:01:00.140 ceremony which is exactly what we were after. So if you're if you're thinking 00:01:00.180 --> 00:01:03.120 about booking Jake I'd say go for it you won't regret it. 00:01:03.200 --> 00:01:05.280 Yeah 100% recommend. Good luck! 00:01:06.780 --> 00:01:11.340 Wedding ceremonies have gone south I think largely because a) waffle. 00:01:11.900 --> 00:01:17.020 Too much talk that isn't relevant to that couple getting married on that day. 00:01:17.500 --> 00:01:20.460 Too much talk of things that could have been said at the last week's wedding or 00:01:20.500 --> 00:01:25.880 next week's wedding. Every word at your wedding should be relevant to you, to 00:01:25.880 --> 00:01:27.640 and personalities to your relationship. 00:01:27.980 --> 00:01:30.300 The other thing that I think brings ceremonies down 00:01:30.400 --> 00:01:32.480 is the cringe factor or awkwardness. 00:01:32.560 --> 00:01:33.840 People talk about this all the time. 00:01:34.380 --> 00:01:37.600 I think it often comes from people trying too hard 00:01:38.000 --> 00:01:41.300 to get a laugh using punchlines, using wedding jokes. 00:01:41.900 --> 00:01:44.960 It has such a high rate of just not landing. 00:01:45.880 --> 00:01:47.500 But if we talk about things that are playful, 00:01:48.140 --> 00:01:50.300 things that are observations about your journey, 00:01:50.460 --> 00:01:53.200 you as a couple, things that have happened in your journey, 00:01:53.800 --> 00:01:56.780 They don't have to be ha ha funny, knock it out of the park, 00:01:57.040 --> 00:01:59.380 but there is no way people won't be smiling, 00:02:00.000 --> 00:02:02.760 chuckling, grinning, or outright laughing. 00:02:03.220 --> 00:02:04.340 They all achieve the same thing. 00:02:04.700 --> 00:02:06.640 Serotonin release, people are happy, 00:02:07.060 --> 00:02:09.759 and people are engaged in this ceremony. 00:02:10.479 --> 00:02:11.900 And the last thing I think is that 00:02:12.000 --> 00:02:13.840 they just feel not authentic. 00:02:13.980 --> 00:02:15.300 They don't feel true. 00:02:15.860 --> 00:02:17.520 It feels like someone is speaking 00:02:17.520 --> 00:02:19.140 who doesn't really wanna be there, 00:02:19.240 --> 00:02:20.580 who isn't invested in the couple. 00:02:21.420 --> 00:02:23.680 Ladies and gentlemen, it is such a privilege 00:02:23.820 --> 00:02:24.920 for me to be here today. 00:02:25.700 --> 00:02:26.600 No, it's not. 00:02:26.900 --> 00:02:28.040 You don't need to read that bit. 00:02:29.840 --> 00:02:33.240 They should be able to tell that your celebrant cares 00:02:33.400 --> 00:02:36.120 so much about you and the two of you 00:02:36.520 --> 00:02:37.540 becoming a married couple. 00:02:37.740 --> 00:02:39.340 They should be able to tell that there's been 00:02:39.640 --> 00:02:42.220 a whole lot of prep done so that on the day, 00:02:42.620 --> 00:02:44.920 the celebrant can not just be standing there reading, 00:02:45.040 --> 00:02:46.780 but leading the atmosphere, 00:02:47.320 --> 00:02:50.560 making your ceremony one that people will never forget. 00:02:51.260 --> 00:02:53.080 And the other thing is momentum. 00:02:53.820 --> 00:02:55.540 We want to make sure that even if we're talking 00:02:55.640 --> 00:02:57.860 about the right stuff, if we talk about it for too long, 00:02:57.980 --> 00:02:59.420 people are going to start looking at the view, 00:02:59.700 --> 00:03:00.800 listening to the birds. 00:03:01.220 --> 00:03:02.880 We want this ceremony to have momentum, 00:03:03.000 --> 00:03:05.100 so we're building up to the whole crescendo 00:03:05.340 --> 00:03:07.800 of the wedding day, which is the vows, 00:03:08.000 --> 00:03:10.380 the promises that make you a married couple. 00:03:10.800 --> 00:03:12.400 Everything in the lead up to the vows 00:03:12.800 --> 00:03:14.160 is building up to that moment, 00:03:14.320 --> 00:03:17.660 and everything after them is celebrating that they happen. 00:03:18.020 --> 00:03:20.640 If you follow these rules, you'll have an incredible wedding. 00:03:21.060 --> 00:03:23.820 My name's Jake. I'm a marriage celebrant based in Australia, 00:03:23.990 --> 00:03:28.480 and I would love to help celebrate the two of you becoming married. 00:03:28.920 --> 00:03:30.140 Thanks for listening. God bless. 00:03:31.340 --> 00:03:35.960 Hi Jake! Just wanted to say thank you so much for all the help that 00:03:36.060 --> 00:03:39.460 you've given us to have the best ceremony ever. 00:03:40.260 --> 00:03:43.880 We're Molly and Julian and two months ago today, we got married by Jake. 00:03:44.360 --> 00:03:47.820 We had Jake as our celebrant and our MC, and we can't thank him enough. 00:03:47.920 --> 00:03:50.640 We had such a good day and he helped the day run so smoothly. 00:03:50.820 --> 00:03:51.480 So thank you. 00:03:51.840 --> 00:03:53.400 - We couldn't have found a better celebrant 00:03:53.500 --> 00:03:55.540 and we highly recommend him for your special day. 00:03:56.000 --> 00:03:56.580 - Thanks Jake. - Thanks Jake. 00:03:56.780 --> 00:03:57.500 - He was amazing. 00:03:57.720 --> 00:03:59.100 He kept me calm the whole day. 00:03:59.840 --> 00:04:01.380 Everything just ran so smooth. 00:04:01.740 --> 00:04:04.600 - We really love the personal and professional approach 00:04:04.620 --> 00:04:06.180 taken by Jake and his team. 00:04:06.760 --> 00:04:09.260 - Yeah, we honestly couldn't recommend Jake enough. 00:04:09.780 --> 00:04:10.560 - Five stars Jake. 00:04:10.640 --> 00:04:12.180 Thank you so much for everything you did for us. 00:04:12.180 --> 00:04:12.880 - Thank you so much. 00:04:13.020 --> 00:04:13.180 - Cheers.